Tuesday, May 22, 2018

MSLD 641 Module 4- Tipping Points of Emotional Intelligence


For this week’s blog, we focus on tipping points, or points where events and changes becomes significant enough to cause a larger, more important change. For changes to occur however, two attractors are required: positive emotional attractors (PEA) and negative emotional attractors (NEA). PEA includes dreams, possibilities, and strengths whereas NEA includes fears and weaknesses (Howard, 2006). While Boyatzis and Taylor (2015) states that NEA are required to have people move from vision to action, a person must spend more time with PEA in order to achieve a sustained desired change. Despite this however, he adds that it is important for leaders to maintain balance between PEA and NEA to make effective decisions (Boyatzis & Taylor, 2015).  
A tipping point I recall is when I was working on my past job as a summer camp employee. After a successful first year, I was promoted as a coordinator and had more responsibilities: which included the management of an entire camp and lower-leveled employees. Unlike the previous year, the number of camp participants nearly doubled. In addition to having around the same number of employees as the previous year, everyone was struggling and exceptionally busy.
Likely due to the high levels of stress and lack of employees, my coworkers and occasionally myself made a lot of mistakes and in general was not performing to the expected standards. With the constant mistakes, I was also progressively getting upset at myself and my coworkers. At one point during the summer camp program, I was entering my exam week for classes. Since my workplace had academics as their top priority, I had two assistants take over my camp for the day while I was given a couple hours to focus on my studies. At one point, one of the camp instructors interrupted and notified me that a few students were missing and was needed to complete an activity. Already stressed from studying, I ended up getting into an argument with my assistants: blaming them for their mistakes.
With the constant arguments and negative emotions, I started to notice that workplace performance and relationships were getting worse. I eventually reached the tipping point when my boss called me into his office for a talk. I was worried, thinking I’d lose my job, but instead he thanked me for my so-far work efforts and pointed out some areas that needed some fixing on. While the talk made me feel better, it also made me think about the way I treated my coworkers. At this stage, I was able to identify NEA and PEA: I became more aware that everyone was stressed and that treating them negatively is only making things worse. Inspired by how my boss treated me, I then decided to get in a better habit to stay positive, even during the most difficult times. This is critical for leaders, as study finds that positivity help improve relationships and overall work outcomes (Fredrickson, 2011). In the end, I was able to apologize for my behavior on the two assistants and we improved on communication.


References:
Boyatzis, R. E., Rochford, K., & Taylor, S. N. (2015). The role of the positive emotional attractor in vision and shared vision: Toward effective leadership, relationships, and engagement. Frontiers in Psychology, 6, 670. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2015.00670
Fredrickson, B. (2011). Barbara Fredrickson: Positive Emotions Open our Mind [Video File]. YouTube. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7dFDHzV36g&feature=youtu.be
Howard, A. (2006). Positive and negative emotional attractors and intentional change. Journal of Management Development, Vol. 25 Issue: 7, pp.657-670


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